All Gone: All Gone: A Memoir of My Mother's Dementia. With Refreshments

"Haunting, unflinching and at times unexpectedly hilarious...A powerful affirmation of family bonds." -The New York Times Book Review A daughter's longing love letter to a mother who has slipped beyond reach. Just past seventy, Alex Witchel's smart, adoring, ultracapable mother began to exhibit undeniable signs of dementia. Her smart, adoring, ultracapable daughter reacted as she'd been raised: If something was broken, they would fix it. But as medical reality undid that hope, and her mother continued the torturous process of disappearing in plain sight, Witchel retreated to the kitchen, trying to reclaim her mother at the stove by cooking the comforting foods of her childhood: "Is there any contract tighter than a family recipe?" Reproducing the perfect meat loaf was no panacea, but it helped Witchel come to terms with her predicament, the growing phenomenon of "ambiguous loss" -- loss of a beloved one who lives on. Gradually she developed a deeper appreciation for all the ways the p